A new study featured in the journal, Science Advances, revealed that most Americans try to reach for people who are out of their league. As such, our messages get longer and the other person often doesn’t reply.
The study revealed that those who use online dating apps and sites are likely to swipe for people who are up to 25% more attractive than they are. Of course, looks aren’t everything, but it might reveal why you’re less likely to get a message back.
According to this study, heterosexual men who pursue women that are “out of their league” will only receive one message out of every five they send.
Professor Eli Finkel notes that it’s because of a lack of pain associated with a rejection.
“The costs of being aspirational are so low in this context — in contrast to pursuing partners in person, where the rejection really stings,” he notes.
For many, online dating is the only way some people get to meet other singles. Over 15 million people in the U.S. are unpaid caregivers for their loved ones suffering from dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. As they work around the clock, dating apps are the only alternative.
And the situation surrounding dementia is only getting worse. Each year, approximately 10 million new cases are reported on top of the 50 million people who have dementia worldwide.
Unfortunately, there are worse fates than not getting a message in reply from an online dating site.
Between catfishing, sexual assault, and even the possibility of murder, online dating is associated with more risks than just a bad date or unsolicited picture. One woman writes about her experiences on Tinder, a popular dating app for young adults. She had a connection with one man who lied from the start of their conversation.
“He said he was an optometrist in town, but I couldn’t even find a person by this name. After this, he sent me some graphic sexual images and then stopped talking to me,” wrote guest columnist, Chryssy Moor on the Tallahassee Democrat.
Luckily, she highlights three key ways to avoid dating pitfalls.
1. Look for common friends. Many dating apps allow you to sign in with social media. If you have mutual connections with the person you’re speaking with, try reaching out to one of your friends to see if this person is legitimate.
2. Become a sleuth. Some online daters may be hesitant to give you all their information. But if the chat is going well, try finding out their last name and performing a Google search. Google gets over 100 billion searches every month; there’s bound to be some sort of information about them online.
3. Trust your gut. If a person doesn’t tell you too much about themselves or doesn’t want to meet you in person, drop them. Don’t pursue someone who makes you feel strange or uneasy. There are countless other matches out there for you online and in person.
Everyone is searching for a companion, whether it be through dating apps, social media, or even support animals. While emotional support dogs have taken the internet by storm, there’s another type of animal that helps in different situations.
Facility dogs are specially trained dogs that assist people in a workplace setting, commonly seen in courtrooms. One facility pooch helped a young girl testify against a man in court despite her trauma. Without the help of the facility dog’s comforting presence, she may not have been able to do it.
Today, there are an estimated 177 working facility dogs opposed to the one available in 2004. Additionally, the number of emotional support dogs has also surged to help people with depression and anxiety.
If the dating world isn’t your cup of tea, you can always find companionship in a pet. There’s nothing wrong with staying inside either; according to new information, the average American home is more affordable than it used to be. It uses around 40% less natural gas compared to 40 years ago. Your pup might also help you weed out any potential suitors — if your dog doesn’t like your new beau, neither should you.
Sometimes, online dating can be an unfortunate necessity. Whether you’re stuck inside working all day or just lead a busier lifestyle, try these ways to stay safe in the turbulent world of online dating.