I’ve officially been living away from New York for 3+ years and over the years I have become less surprised by the way people expect me to act versus how I actually am because I am indeed a native New Yorker.
The most common thing people say is ” You’re from New York? Oh your not rude at all.”
After that is “Oh you do have a New York accent, but not really” as if I was suppose to pronounce words like “coffee” as “caw-fee” (that deep accent is more common in Italian Staten Islanders btw) I never even knew New Yorkers had accents to be honest. I just thought everyone else did. I guess that’s just that NY arrogance in me.
The last commonality amongst people when I tell them I’m from NYC is their acceptance of me not having a drivers license and getting my permit at the age of 20. I mean not too many people drive in the City to be honest. You can’t event find parking for goodness sakes!
I came face to face with the Rude New Yorker Stigma my last visit home, but on the receiving end. While I thought it was obviously that someone should hold the mall door open so I can get through with the 40inch tv that I was carrying by myself, others didn’t. One woman completely just let the door close behind her instead of holding it open for me, a man slid right through also not holding the door, then another woman came along and sort of held the door after I sarcastically guilted her into doing so. 1 door down another to go! A man actually saw me going towards the second set of doors and actually held it without me pulling a tooth. And they say Chivalry is dead, tuh!
Moral of the story is when you move away from your hometown you begin to see things differently. For me it has been social interactions and cleaning up my behavior. I now more frequently hold doors open for people, greet strangers on the street in passing and try not to j walk as much (try being the keyword) and some other things that I can’t think of right now.
What has been some of your personal experiences living or traveling outside of your hometown?