As a part time introvert, I always find myself in this bind where I want to go out but at the same time want to be alone. Not for one second though did I even consider going out by myself. The thought crossed my mind of course but I would always ignore it by telling myself that it is super pathetic and I’m better off staying in my place binge watching something on Netflix. After getting over the fear of awkwardness, I realized that there is a lot to appreciate about going on a date alone, by yourself.
When I first walked into the restaurant that I took myself on a date to, old creepy men were staring at me. I was just hoping that they wouldn’t say a peep to me because honestly tonight was about me myself and I. I got a few little looks here and there maybe because I decided to get a little cute to be by myself. I sat somewhere that, at first, was secluded but later 3 women came to sit next to me to have a Saturday night powwow. I wanted to snatch one of the girls eyeballs out for looking at me but I just dismissed it and continued on with my date.
It wasn’t as bad or awkward as I thought it would be, except for the fact that I started feeling weird with people sitting in too close proximity to me. Honestly speaking, that happens on a normal day with me though. It felt good to go out of the house but not having to force myself into unwanted convo that I otherwise would have to partake in if I had invited someone to come out with me.
I didn’t meet anyone going to a bar by myself but there are a few reasons why I would do it again.
The pressure? Isn’t there whatsoever ever
If I want to go on a date by myself and wear a juicy couture sweatsuit and a head wrap for goodness sakes, who is going to judge me besides some random stranger that I don’t have any interest in seeing ever again in life? Also I don’t have to worry about coming off as “ladylike” as I usually do when I’m on a date with a guy. If I want to inhale a plate of fries, so be it.
Your date is never late
Because your date is you, of course. One of my biggest pet peeves is being late, particularly when someone else is late and has you waiting on them. Go out alone and you don’t have to worry about your friends or date showing up 10 minutes before happy hour is over.`
It serves as new scenery to collect your thoughts
When I’m in my own home overwhelmed and consuming myself in my thoughts, I usually get exhausted and turn to my bed for comfort. On a date with myself though, I was able to really think and start to derive actionable plans for the things that have been troubling me.
You don’t have to worry about who is going to take the check
If I’m on a date with a dude, I usually expect for him to fit the bill. That’s just me being honest. And when I’m I with friends, I rather have separate checks (unless one of us decides to treat of course) because I don’t have time for calculations or people not wanting to tip appropriately.
When you’re ready to leave, you can just get up and go!
Some people just don’t know when it’s time to go home. Instead of awkwardly having to give a que that you’re ready to leave, you can just up and go on your own accord.
Eat whatever the hell you want!
Like said, if I want to inhale a plate of french fries, I can do so without worrying if I look “cute” doing it.
Genuinely taking out the time to enjoy yourself
That’s probably the best part. I think some people are apprehensive about going out alone mainly because they feel like they need to be around people to have a good time. It’s really a great feeling to chill with yourself outside the confinements of your own room/apt/house. You’d be surprised.
The next time that you have the urge to go out but you aren’t really in the mood for people, just find a spot for you to enjoy some time with yourself. Let me know how it goes!
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