BAD BITCH(N.): A self-respecting, strong [woman] who has everything together. This consists of body, mind, finances, and attitude; a woman who gets her way by any means necessary.
How many times have you heard the phrase “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover”? Plenty, I’m sure. That’s something that you definitely need to consider before passing judgement on Amber Rose’s capabilities as a published author or even the actual cover or title of her new book “How To Be A Bad Bitch”.
Some people have bad feelings towards the title in itself, but let’s be real. It’s 2015 and the word “bitch”, especially when accompanied by the word bad, has transcended its former negative connotation whether you choose to acknowledge it or not. Don’t be sensitive.
The title and cover of the book definitely reflect the “idgaf” “Imma do me regardless of naysayers” attitude that Amber has wholeheartedly used as the foundation of her personal brand and pushes as a mindset for EVERY woman to use to become the best version of herself.
In HTBABB, Amber discusses all of the many facets of life such as, beauty, fashion, conduct, and personality, finding your passion and safe and responsible sex habits. If I must say so myself, Amber does an EXCELLENT job of drawing from her personal experiences to guide women on being “bad bitches” in their own right.
“I created an ideal vision of myself, for myself. I put it together, and I pursued it relentlessly.”
Throughout the whole book Amber speaks openly and honestly about her coming up extremely poor in South Philly, being bullied for being “weird” and “unattractive” to moving to New York to pursue a career exotic dancing but never giving up on her long term goal of being in Hollywood as a model and living the life that she envisioned for herself. She got there by staying very positive and absolutely not sleeping her way to the top contrary to beliefs. With the help of positive figures in her life such as her mom Dottie Rose and her strong desires to be her
She got there by staying very positive and absolutely not sleeping her way to the top contrary to beliefs. With the help of positive figures in her life such as her mom Dottie Rose and her strong desires to be her baddest self, Amber Rose is now a successful model, pop culture maven, actress, entrepreneur and proud mom.
“To figure out who you are, dig deep and dare to picture your dream life: where you live, what you do for work. who you love, and who loves you. lay out the steps required to get there, and then go for it—with everything you’ve got—until you make it happen.”
In all honesty, the last thing that I expected to get from this book were confidence building mantras that could simply help me get through my day or even give me back the motivation that I needed to get my life in the direction that I’d like it to go. The couple of days that I took to read the book (it’s a pretty easy read) it was like in every situation that I found myself in, I had Amber in my head as my bad bitch fairy godmother, keeping me from acting in any manner that a “bad bitch” would not.
People tend to pass judgement on Amber because of her past as a stripper or the ex of some famous men in Hollywood but I don’t think that it is something that we should necessarily judge her based on. In fact, if there is anyone that you could take advice from about getting your whole life together, why not someone who came from absolutely nothing and has accomplished a lot on her own because of her determination to break free from her circumstances.
The biggest take away from reading this book is the power that confidence plays in being the baddest bitch that you could possibly be. From the blonde buzz cut to feeling comfortable in her own sexuality, it has been Amber’s confidence (keyword) that has helped her never take her eyes off the prize and win in every sense of the word.
“In order to execute this vision of yourself, you have to believe, and that’s what will give you the confidence you need to go through with your plan and not care what anyone says. Hence my look, my life as a model, my move to Hollywood. Even though no one thought it made sense, I knew it was right for me.”
If you haven’t read “How To Be A Bad Bitch” yet (because I know you’re going to after reading this), I definitely recommend that you go pick up a copy soon( I purchased mine from Amazon). It may give you that extra confidence boost that you need to fully embark on the journey of living the life that you’ve always imagined.
For those who have read HTBABB, what are your honest thoughts?
Feature image courtesy of Amber Rose via Twitter